Defining "good-enough" parents and marriages

In this era of over-parenting, this excerpt from a recent New York Times article gets to the heart of what it takes to create healthy adults and marriages. In my opinion, very wise words:

In psychiatry, the term “good-enough mother” describes the parent who loves her child well enough for him to grow into an emotionally healthy adult. The goal is mental health, defined as the fortitude and flexibility to live one’s own life — not happiness. This is a crucial distinction. Similarly the “good-enough marriage” is characterized by its capacity to allow spouses to keep growing, to afford them the strength and bravery required to face the world.

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