"The Velvet Rage," a book about the pain of growing up gay in a straight man's world

I met the author of this thought-provoking and insightful book last night. Alan Downs Phd. talks about the effects of hiding one's sexuality and associated shame on the ability of gay men to emotionally mature and form deep and lasting romantic relationships. The book finishes with 10 big life lessons that are very Buddhist in spirit...and lead to authenticity. I am going to start reading this book.