This passage below summarizes all that is good in my parents' relationship of 51 years. They have a total "we" relationship style that is love-, not fear-based. This passage reminds me of what Marianne Williamson used to say, "Do you want to be right or be happy?" The ego rather be right. David's words are inspiring and insightful.
If the partners in a relationship are mainly concerned with proving themselves right, then the ego rules the relationship. If they are concerned with how to make the relationship work, then cooperative love rules. Ego, which means "I," is the main obstacle to intimacy, which implies "we." In reality, there is no solid, separate self. We are all interconnected and contingent upon one another.
--David Richo
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