This is how to make an apology. And why the f-word is so devastating to all men

I am sure Jonah Hill is not a homophobe and I appreciate the tone of this apology.

Underlying this apology is the homophobic societal notion that calling a man "faggot" is the worst thing you can do to demean another man, as any school boy knows from his playground experience.  In essence, you are saying he is weak, ineffective, and not a man.  Until we change that belief about gay men and AFFIRM them as they grow up, the use of the f-word is continue to wreak havoc on the psyches of gay and straight men alike.